Do we need couples counseling?
Here are some common signs that it could be beneficial for you:
- Blowout arguments that leave you emotionally drained
- Frequent bickering that makes it unpleasant to be around each other
- Feeling like you’re on separate planets even when you’re in the same room
- One of you is thinking about, having, or has had an affair
- Jealousy and / or controlling behavior
- Lack of sexual activity and / or physical touch for long stretches
- You clash about values, long-term goals or spending
- Increased strain on the relationship due to life transitions
- Misunderstandings and miscommunication are causing problems
Does it actually work?
For many couples, it certainly does! The earlier you start couples’ therapy, the more likely you will be able to nip problems in the bud. You can read more about this topic on my blog.
How does couples counseling help?
A couples therapist can help you…
- Feel heard and understood by your partner
- Re-connect emotionally
- Make decisions together effectively
- Learn how to support one another in times of stress
- Ignite physical and sexual intimacy
- Heal from previous hurts, and leave the past in the past
- Re-establish trust
What if I want couples counseling, but my partner doesn’t?
I will be very honest. If one partner is dead set against couples’ counseling, or is only going because of an ultimatum set by the other partner, it is unlikely to be effective. Therapy, like relationships themselves, requires commitment.
On the other hand, if your partner is reluctant, or skeptical but open, couples’ therapy can definitely work.
Do you provide couples teletherapy?
Yes, I do! Teletherapy is a great option for…
- Long-distance couples
- Couples in which one or both partners travel frequently
- Couples who’d like the convenience of seeing a therapist from the comforts of home